The Archery of Parenthood During the Transformation

As time accelerates and the days seem to pass in a few short hours, my son is acutely aware that his downtime has significantly decreased. He wonders aloud where the day has gone, spending most of his time in school and doing homework, the early darkness of winter emphasizing his point.

That is not the only change he is aware of; he is in tune with all around him, which is often polarized. He feels the subtle nuances in moods and emotions of those around him, yet outward expressions do not always match. As he cannot yet differentiate these ‘signals’ from his own it can be quite confusing. With the energy shift/time acceleration in the last few years getting increasingly intense, he has learned quickly to ground and let go of this fear attaching to him. Sometimes I feel as though my child is out in the world ill equipped to handle all that is thrust upon him at such a young age. However, my own children, and those I have taught, can do amazing things with energy with less guidance than most adults. Kids  just need to be reminded, or refocused away from the external.

Time is short, and the children need to be weaned of video games and mind numbing television, and be brought out into the real world, into nature, and be shown the way to their power – true inner vision. We must trust divine guidance to help us do this the best we can. Mother Mary comes to mind as a guide to help, as she raised a child who knew who He was from birth. We mothers can imagine the effort it must have taken on her part to teach Him, but also to let Him go. We can learn much about letting go from her as her Child belongs to the world. Imagine if she said, “No, Jeshua, you can’t go to the temple today. You need to clean your room!”

Our children also belong to the world, as the world belongs to them. We must lead them as best we can, then let them fly. As much as we want to protect and shelter them, they must be prepared for the near future. We cannot go through the process for them as we are going through it ourselves. How sad and less beautiful the sky and the trees would be without the birds flying and singing! Baby birds follow the parents’ lead, and are sometimes pushed out of the nest if they won’t go. We must take them by the hand and make this learning a priority over all else now.

We shall not alarm them with the stories of the world ending, yet we can explain it as a beautiful transformation, as if Earth has been in a chrysalis for a time and now it is ready to stretch Her wings as a butterfly. We are a part of that being, so we must assist it and stretch our wings as well. As we teach them all we know I believe we will find they hold more wisdom than we realized, and can teach us a thing or two.

 On Children

by Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts.

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;

For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.